Many of us experience sexual difficulty at some point in our lives. These often have their roots in our emotions, but they can be caused by or lead to physical problems. Psychosexual therapy can help us to understand the interrelationship between our emotions and physical responses and explore possible solutions.
Psychosexual Therapy can be useful whether you are single or in a relationship. Talking about your sexual relationship may seem a little strange at first, but our Psychosexual Therapists are specially trained to help you.
For some, the problem resolves itself in time; others may need additional help.
Talking about your sexual relationship may seem a little strange at first, but our Psychosexual Therapists are specially trained to help you. They are experienced in...
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We’d been married for 27 years when our eldest son left home. We’d were looking forward to spending more time together and having the house to ourselves but we discovered that, without the children, we didn’t have that much in common.
My husband Sam was very warm and affectionate when we were younger and we had a good sex life, great in fact. But over the years we’d grown apart without really noticing. We were rarely intimate but put that down to being too busy, tired or distracted with other things. Perhaps it was naive to think being on our own again would mean we’d just pick up where we left off. It couldn’t have been more opposite.
The distance in our relationship had taken its toll. We were awkward around each other - I felt rejected, thinking Sam didn’t find me attractive anymore and Sam seemed distant and uncomfortable. Our attempts often failed and we were left feeling worse than before we started. It cast a cloud over everything and I wondered if he was having an affair - thankfully he wasn’t. We just couldn’t connect to each other and it was almost impossible to talk about.
I had a lot of thoughts about our marriage being over, it was devastating; I still loved him. I worried that he’d leave me if we couldn’t sort things out, later I discovered that he shared the same fears. We were at breaking point so we looked for help.
We began Psychosexual Therapy which I found pretty embarrassing to being with, but it saved our marriage. Our therapist helped us to look at all aspects of our relationship, thoughts, fears and feelings and it was amazing how much we didn’t know about each other. I thought I knew Sam inside out but I really didn’t. I never imagined that he felt rejected and lonely or that he missed us. He said he’d been worried about still be able to please me and was very self-conscious about his ability to perform.
Therapy helped us to calm our anxiety and get back the emotional and sexual intimacy we’d lost. We were given exercises to increase our confidence and they really worked. We began to laugh again, talk about all sorts of things and we learned to be there for each other. It wasn’t long before we looked forward to going to therapy, it was a life changer.